E+R=O or Event + Response (Yours) = Outcome. The only thing that you have control over is your response to events; so if you want a different outcome, you have to change your response. For example, if the event is whining and your response is to constantly remind them to stop, you might want to change your response to ignoring. However, it’s the behavior that you are ignoring and not the child. As soon as their behavior becomes appropriate, notice that...you get more of the behavior that you notice and encourage.